It can be difficult to cope with the heat while pregnant, particularly during the last few months of pregnancy. Ensure you keep up your fluids and be sensible about taking it easy, especially during the hottest part of the day. It’s a wonderful opportunity to excuse yourself for a nanna nap in an air-conditioned room during the afternoons. You'll find that a quick recharge will help you cope a lot better overall with the occasion and the activities. Take the opportunity while someone else is making dinner!
2. Listening to Everyone’s Birth Stories
As a general rule, our culture is quite fearful of birth and any choice that is different from the standard recommendations. I’m sure most pregnant women will have at least one story about being accosted by a stranger who decides to run through all the gory details of their birth.
It can be a little harder to ignore the storyteller if it’s your sister-in-law.
It’s OK to let everyone know that you only want to hear helpful and positive tips and that you don't want to hear any horror stories.
If you're having a homebirth and someone launches into the “My sister’s friend’s cousin had a homebirth that went wrong” story – cut them off. Change the subject.
If you're planning a hospital birth, you don't want to hear about all the unpleasant details about her experience with a horrible midwife at your third cousin’s birth. Even if you're attending the same hospital, there’s a slim chance you'll have the same experience. Or even the same labour.
Perhaps you can have a few questions ready to steer the conversation to something a little more positive.
- If you could do it all again, what would you look forward to?
- What was something funny you or your partner said during labour?
- What was the best advice you received about birth?
- What was the best thing your partner did to help you during labour?
- What helped your partner the most during labour?
(For more ideas, see Unwanted Advice in my “5 Tips for the Holidays with a Newborn" blog post)
3. Alcohol and Food Restrictions
There are always going to be risks and benefits with the decisions you make, not only during pregnancy and birth, but also with parenting. There are recommendations made by various medical bodies about Pregnancy and Alcohol and Pregnancy and Food Restrictions.
You have to weigh up your risk/benefit ratio and make a decision whichever makes you feel comfrtable because pregnancy, in some cases, can be tough.
Do you think that eating Great Aunt Martha’s “Seafood Surprise” is such a great idea this year, considering her lack of general food hygiene skills? Do you know how cold the prawns were kept since they were bought by your mum? How do you feel about just leaving those options for this year and finding something else to eat and drink instead? Perhaps you can ask your mum to make you her special seafood dish as a “Welcome Home” present after baby is born.
Remember, you're only going to be pregnant for just a little while longer.
If you want to know more about childbirth and pregnancy, you can always contact me and I will be happy to schedule an appointment with you over the holidays.